There’s no “I” in Team.
Go look at my Formulation and you’ll soon know what I mean.
They say it’s routine
to rewrite my history in a way I could not have foreseen.
And quite frankly, they should know better.
They wish to place emphasis on what happened
Whilst at the same time forgetting that it happened to ME
There’s no “I” in Person Centred Care.
It’s my story to tell
My truth to share
And only I should get to decide who hears it and where.
I should be in control.
You don’t get to dictate my goals
Or define your role
In MY life.
The power should belong to me.
I don’t need you to empower me.
I need you to respect me,
and acknowledge that your power affects me.
To consider how it affects me
And take suitable steps to gain informed consent from me.
I don’t need a permanent medical record of the trauma I endured.
Yes I am sure.
If you’re still unsure
Of exactly why I am wary of Formulation, after hearing these words –
I can’t make you listen
But I’ll make myself heard.
True collaboration cannot exist if it is enforced.
Any treatment will not be helpful simply because it is endorsed
Or any of your friends.
Erase my life from your system,
Let me get some power back from your hands.
Give me control
Give me choice
And quit acting like this is an unreasonable demand.
Yes I was sexually abused,
And Yes, it messed up my head,
Yes, I wanted support from you
But I was horribly misled.
The entire system,
of which you are a part of,
Has ripped my truth apart
From the very start.